I am the girl who had
a mother that made banana bread and put notes into her lunch, and because of
this background I felt uneasy at times throughout the first part of Bich Minh
Nguyen’s, Stealing Buddha’s Dinner.
However, due to my past experiences of growing up in primarily white Marshall,
MI I felt as if this experience placed me within her story. As the
memoir progressed I could see the complexities in the ways Bich was torn
between Vietnam and East Grand Rapids. Her struggles growing up appeared
colossal compared to the problems of my youth. Although my mother wouldn’t buy
me Hollister brand jeans or Victoria Secret Bras like the other girls my age, I
was not culture torn. I was not completely an outsider.
I was the girl with banana bread in my lunch. The kind my mother made
was the kind that I made again just this last week to remind me of home and to
save me from breakfast at Kalamazoo College’s Cafeteria, and because of this
memory I have associated with the banana bread I can’t help but feel guilty
that Bich feels split between foods. When she thinks of home will be it a
complex blend of noodles, beef, and 7Up? Will there be crushed Pringles at the
bottom of the spicy Vietnamese food? This
story makes me think back to my childhood in a different way. When I was five
years old I had a friend from Argentina. He and his mother lived in the
apartments on the outside of town and the furniture was sparse in their house.
At the time I don’t remember if I noted how differently he and I grew up. They
spoke Spanish with each other, and I can remember listening wide-eyed as his mother
would speak to him.
It is strange to me that the only thing I can remember about my friend
is that when I would go over to his house his mom would let us have dulce de leche ice cream.
I was dazzled by the exoticness of the name and the way the words rolled off my
tongue. Come to find out years later you can buy it at the grocery store like
any other kind of ice cream, but there is still this lingering memory of
different, but at the same time friends. I now wonder if my friend felt the
same way about me as Bich does with her neighbors. I lost touch with my friend
after kindergarten when he and his mother moved. I think I may go pick up some
dulce de leche ice cream sometime soon.
It's one of my favorite flavors. When I was taking Spanish (and struggling with it) in high school, one of my favorite things is when we would take a break and have a food day to understand the culture. One time it was churros, which the Caf has been trying to make a thing, but another time we made Dulce de leche from scratch. It's worth while, and much better than the stuff that comes in a can (which you can also get from the grocery store). It's almost a metaphor for self reflection time. You can give yourself 20 minutes to watch television, or a marathon day of Star Wars films. Can vs. Cook. Still good, but sometimes excellence is preferable.
ReplyDeleteThere are harder/more expensive ways to make it (http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/alton-brown/dulce-de-leche-recipe/index.html) and easier ways to make it (http://www.dianasdesserts.com/index.cfm/fuseaction/recipes.recipeListing/filter/dianas/recipeID/2826/Recipe.cfm or here http://www.grouprecipes.com/47384/easy-dulce-de-leche.html), but it's perfect for when you want to take the time to make something worth while, the same way a Tiramisu would be. Let me know if you're interested in making it. Would love to join in the fun. It's a perfect recipe for bonding. Not much attention needed, just attentiveness. I personally think those are the best kinds of things to make. Chau.